I love the concept of Wise mind! Whenever I think of coming from a wise place I think, of Buddha, Jesus, Mother Teresa,or Yoda. I know, Yoda, right?
“Size matters not. Look at me. Judge me by my size, do you? Hmm? Hmm. And well you should not. For my ally is the Force, and a powerful ally it is.”
( Yoda to Luke Skywalker)
Wise Mind is when you are in the zone, or using the force. You know it is occurring when you are doing something and you just “know” it is right, and your gut and your mind are in sync. Let’s use the example of deciding to accept a job offer. When thinking about the new job, you want to take into consideration what the company’s culture feels like, that you are excited to do and can perform the position, and that it feels like the right thing at the right time. You also want to look at the facts of the position and think about it rationally. What are the facts and figures involved in the position? What is the commute like? Do I have the necessary skills? What are the benefits? Think of every “fact” that could influence your decision. Don’t forget to weigh the pros and cons. “The commute may be shorter, but my values don’t fit with the culture.”
Use your wise mind to make better decisions by following the steps below.
1. Look at all the facts of the situation at hand.
2. Notice your thoughts and feelings.
3. Don’t Judge your thoughts and feelings. Just name them.
4. Combine your thoughts and feelings together.
5. Weigh the pros and cons of what to do and how to act.
6. Then make your decision out of the synthesis of combining the facts, emotions and the pros and cons.
“May the Wise Mind be with you!”
*Wise Mind is a concept of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy
